7 Words To Clear From Language To Help You Feel Better
Feeling Crabby? Happiness is Contagious.
7 Words To Clear From Language To Help You Feel Better (& How To Replace Them
According to research done at Harvard University and the University of California, San Diego science has shown us that happiness is a choice is contagious. So how can we use our language to create more happiness and success?
Most of us had less than ideal upbringings. We were around people who did their best, yet may have never taught us how to use our thoughts and feelings to design our language in a way where we are more likely to get what we want. In fact in this day, age and culture many of us are taught from a very young age to focus on what we don’t want.
Rarely are we taught to realize how important the words we use are. We never notice how they affect the way we perceive reality or how we create reality and how the words we choose to use affect others.
As you will come to learn thru practice and application, the way we choose our words directly and fundamentally influences how we shape our perception of our reality. Our perception is our own and only we have the power to create or shift it. Its an inside job that has, for most of us, been heavily externally influenced. There is reality, then there is the way we perceive reality. Therefore our perceptions directly affect our reality.
So how can we change our pereption to live more authentically in the positive side of life? By using our thinking and feeling capacity and our ability to tell ourselves optimistic stories and frame things in a positive context. There is reality, and the story we tell about reality. If we are going to make up a story, it might as well be a good one. We can learn to create high frequency language patterns that will positively entrain and affect our perceptions of reality.
Here you will begin to remember how to frame your language and your pre-scripted stories of the future to support your success, the success of the desired outcome and feel better in the world at large.
Let’s get started by looking at the 7 words we can clear from our language to be more optimistic.
- Try– Implies Failure, is disenheartened and disappointed.
Try gets shifted to Working On. Focuses instead on achieving the end desired result.
“ I tried to finish that document”
“I’m working on finishing that document.”
- Should– Creates procrastination. Is commanding and builds authoritative pressure.
Should gets shifted to Could. Creates options as a reccomendation.
“You should call your mom.”
“You could call your mom.”
- Don’t/Can’t/Won’t– The reference and point of focus is on negative outcome or context instead of on the desired result.
Do your best to shift these toxic words out of language patterns completely. Remeber, there are a million things we don’t want. Instead focus on what you do want, you will be much more likely to receive it.
“I don’t think so. I can’t do that. It won’t work.”
“Maybe I can do that. It may work.”
- Hope– Implies doubt. It is a presupposition that allows another option to exsist. It is also an energeticly closed valve that is disengaging.
Hope gets shifted to May. Using the word may allows the flow of implied thoughts to engage with the positive suggestion.
“I hope you feel better soon.”
“May you feel your best soon!”
- But– A highly used disjunctive that negates the previously made statement. Also can have a scary condescending tone that can make the latter part of the statement seem more daunting that it needs to be.
But gets shifted to And. And brings statements together as cohesive and uplifting parts of a whole thoughtform.
“I really love you, but I’d like to check in with you.”
“I really love you and I’d like to check in with you.”
Look as this simple example that can be seen as common dialog. Notice how this following statement focuses on the lack of, verses the optimal end result.
“ I don’t think I can do it. I tried to, though I can’t make it work. I should ask Sally, I hope she’ll help, but I’m sure she won’t do it.”
If you feel into this statement you will sence the underlying tone of defeat, doubt, pressure and dissappoinment.
A more optimisitc and productive way to phrase this previous dialog could be something like this:
“I’m sure I can do it somehow. I’m working on it and have made my best attempt and feel I could really use some expertise on this matter. I could ask Sally. She may want to help and all I can do is ask.
By dedicating a concerted conscious effect into making our language reflect that which we are inspired to receive, we prime our subconscious and the world at large to deliver that which we desire. By being clear and effective communicators we bring about more clarity, ease and grace in our personal and interpersonal dynamics. Have fun with this practice and be amazed as your life blossoms!!